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As we age, we (hopefully) get wisdom. Be it done study, from experience, oregon by watching others, we larn much and much astir the satellite and observe small "cheat codes" on the mode that marque beingness a full hellhole of a batch easier.
1. "Understanding and accepting that action comes earlier assurance successful each situation. You can’t spell into thing you’ve ne'er done earlier and not consciousness nervous. It’s impossible. You tin prevarication to different people, but you can’t prevarication to yourself. So if there’s thing you’re astir to bash for the archetypal time, fuck being assured and conscionable bash it. And by doing it, you judge occurrence but besides failure, allowing you to set and grow. This is wherever assurance begins to build."
2. "My cheat code: Treating my beingness arsenic the astir important engineering task I'll ever enactment on. For years, I was unsighted to the irony. I'd walk 8 hours a time arsenic an technologist meticulously optimizing analyzable systems astatine work, and past spell location and unrecorded my ain beingness wholly by default, conscionable letting it hap to me. I was moving connected idiosyncratic else's operating system. The displacement was realizing I could use my nonrecreational toolkit (systems thinking, basal origin analysis, iterative design) to everything: my health, my schedule, my finances. Instead of conscionable 'trying to beryllium healthier,' I started designing a strategy for it, defining inputs (energy, time) and desired outputs (strength, consistency)."
—u/Donelectrone
3. "Letting spell of what you can’t control. It’s easier said than done, particularly erstwhile it’s thing precise aggravated with immense consequences based connected the outcome. It is worthy the work, changing your reasoning infinitesimal to moment."
4. "The hardest determination is astir often the close decision. What's easier? Going to the gym oregon staying connected the couch? Having that hard speech with your spouse oregon avoiding it? Apologizing oregon hoping they conscionable fto it go? Restarting your career/going backmost to school, oregon staying successful that occupation that makes you miserable? Make the hard decision."
—u/The59Sownd
"Plus, not making a determination is besides making a decision."
5. "Most radical ne'er inquire for help. You tin unlock opportunities conscionable by asking for immoderate help, a favor, a discount, a job, oregon adjacent advice. Just inquire boldly. There's nary shame successful asking. That's conscionable 1 of my cheat codes successful life. 😉"
7. "When you are young, get a fiscal advisor and commencement putting wealth successful the banal market. If your institution offers a 401k enactment thing successful it. Just effort to beryllium consistent, adjacent if it’s not a lot. Save arsenic overmuch arsenic you can. When you are successful your sixties, you volition convey your younger self!"
8. "We each dice 1 day. Might arsenic good dice trying alternatively of dice crying."
9. "Consistency. This is the cardinal to thing you privation to bash successful life. It’s boring arsenic hell, but that’s the existent way to success. Even if you don’t privation to bash something, unit yourself to bash it consistently."
10. "For me, it was this reminder that truly stuck: Your feelings aren’t a choice, but your behaviour is. No substance what I feel, it’s ever my actions and however I take to respond that genuinely specify everything."
11. "Yoga. Your posture improves. You are calmer. Your assemblage property is lower. It improves each different sports you do."
12. "Forgiveness is simply a almighty cheat code. It tin instrumentality a small practicing to get it right, but if you tin instantly forgive everyone, it's similar a superpower. For example, a coworker is harassing you, and each they get backmost is empathy, which makes their harassment ne'er scope you and discourages them from wanting to harass you further. Importantly, this besides works connected yourself."
13. "'No,' is simply a implicit sentence. This includes, 'you don't beryllium anyone an explanation,' and 'they tin dice huffy astir it.'"
14. "Starting the time with a elemental database of atomic tasks. Eat greens, 1 location chore, 50 push-ups, 10 min walk, etc. Crossing disconnected tasks regular makes you consciousness accomplished. These tiny tasks marque a large difference. When I was younger, I thought spell large oregon spell home; present it’s spell tiny and spell location erstwhile it’s done."
15. "It each starts with showing up. Whatever it is you are trying to accomplish, from climbing immoderate large upland to moving a marathon, oregon adjacent having a large narration with your peculiar one, family, friends, etc. You person to amusement up, not conscionable speech astir it, deliberation mode excessively overmuch astir it, oregon statement it each successful your head. You request to beryllium determination fully, adjacent if you don’t cognize however yet, get up and get moving, and you volition fig retired the however arsenic you go. The adjacent day? Show up again."
16. "Just thin into your earthy talents, gifts, privileges, and opportunities, adjacent if it 'feels similar cheating.' Many of america bask a situation and find the things that are excessively casual for america boring. We wanna bash hard worldly that requires america to get fired up to tackle. Then we kick that 'life is truthful hard,' portion choosing an optional hard mode. So conscionable bash that happening you footwear ass at, adjacent if it each seems truthful evident to you however to bash it. Take that occupation offer, adjacent if radical volition accidental you lone got it due to the fact that of your uncle. Take that assistance adjacent if you 'don't privation immoderate handouts.' Also, timing matters a lot. If thing is simply a bully thought now, a bully concern now, past bash it NOW. Don't beryllium that idiosyncratic who COULD person had it each but ignored their instincts."
17. "Write worldly down."
—u/AJP11B
"THIS. So underrated but truthful beingness changing."
—u/Beaver-Lady
18. "Treat each important wont successful your beingness that you privation to instrumentality to arsenic your job. You don't privation to spell to your job, but you bash daily. I don't privation to spell to the gym, it's snowing outside. Oh, excessively atrocious it's your job, truthful battalion your ass up and spell done the blizzard."
—u/Epic_Kris
19. "Compounding. Everything compounds — money, knowledge, habits."
20. "Keep moving. Mental inertia is real. If you’re being productive, conscionable support going. You whitethorn privation to beryllium for 10 minutes, cheque Reddit, oregon ticker a speedy video, but that makes it truthful overmuch harder to get up and get backmost to it."
21. "People privation to spot you win erstwhile you’re kind. Be benignant to everyone, and they’ll springiness you opportunities."
22. And finally, "Up, Up, Down, Down, Left, Right, Left, Right, B, A, Start." IYKYK.
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