Men Who Waited To Have Sex Until Marriage Are Sharing Whether Or Not They Regret It, And Their Answers Are Brutally Honest

Whether you did the deed connected prom nighttime oregon waited until you exchanged vows, everyone's "first time" is simply a antithetic experience. Recently, Reddit idiosyncratic u/Substantial_Judge931 asked, "Men who waited [until] matrimony to person sex, what was it like? And bash you regret it?"

Welp, men truly didn't clasp backmost connected this 1 — the question sparked immoderate suuuuper candid answers from some sides of the conversation. Here's what they had to say:

Note: Some of these responses person been edited for magnitude and/or clarity.

1. "It was similar anyone else’s archetypal time. You’re not rather definite if you’re doing it right. You’re hoping your spouse enjoys it. You’re realizing you should person done much cardio earlier your honeymoon. All successful all, it’s awesome due to the fact that you’re having enactment with your caller wife. Do I regret it? A little, yeah. But this isn’t immoderate heavy regret that eats astatine me. I conscionable cognize that if reincarnation is real, I’ll bash things otherwise connected the adjacent spell round."

—u/Tree_Weasel

2. "My woman and I waited. It was the close determination for us, but surely has its challenges. I don't needfully regret it, but I bash privation things would beryllium a small different, if that makes immoderate sense."

3. "It's not waiting 'til matrimony that I regret, it's who I waited for. She didn't truly privation to person enactment aft we were joined either. She truly lone wanted enactment (from me, astatine least) to conceive — which led the maine putting each kinds of unit connected myself and having trouble performing. Once we were done making kids, she started getting her 'recreational' enactment elsewhere, and I was retired of the representation altogether."

—u/5-4EqualsUnity

4. "Full context: We are some Christians, met astatine 12 years old, and are presently 40 years old. I person thing to comparison it to, arsenic some my woman and I were virgins connected our wedding night, but the archetypal clip we tried to person sex, it was exciting, but frustrating. She had contracted a UTI and we went to Disney World connected our honeymoon. Every clip we tried having sex, [it] was truly achy for her. Wonder why?"

5. "Not me, but my relative successful the US did this, and helium truly regrets it. Essentially, helium enjoyed having sex, but his now-wife doesn't. She besides isn't consenting to enactment connected him with it due to the fact that she was excessively frightened astir doing it."

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6. "It’s great. I consciousness mode much connected with her. The cardinal is communication. The archetypal fewer months weren’t the best, past it conscionable got better."

—u/NordDex

7. "Let’s accidental it wasn't a cinematic experience. But we figured it retired eventually."

8. "My woman and I waited. We were some a batch much spiritual astatine the time. There's a batch we've unpacked from that period, truthful I don't cognize that I would accidental I regret waiting until matrimony for enactment truthful overmuch arsenic I regret being truthful steeped successful spiritual shame and guilt and letting it power my actions. As to what it was like, highly frustrating for the full comparatively abbreviated engagement, but aft the wedding, highly satisfying. My coworkers didn't cognize I was waiting, but noticed I was mode much focused and chill aft I got backmost from our honeymoon."

"That being said, I person different friends who had precise antithetic experiences that progressive a batch of disorder and emotion conscionable trying to get there. When you've been suppressing each of your intersexual vigor for truthful long, it whitethorn not beryllium similar flipping a power connected the wedding night."

—u/milkshakeit

9. "We’re newlyweds still, but it’s been bully to research this together. First clip was beauteous awkward, but we knew it would be. No regrets."

10. "My woman and I waited until we were married; we were some virgins. Sex was a small hard and achy for my woman astatine first, partially for aesculapian reasons and partially emotionally (she grew up successful a location wherever enactment was beauteous taboo). It took a small spot of clip and patience connected some of our parts, but astir 8 years in, we’ve learned astir each other, recovered what makes america tick, person had a mates of children, and our enactment beingness conscionable keeps getting amended and better."

—u/SkyGuy182

11. "Yes, I regret it. I joined her, and portion a batch of aspects of our matrimony are great, her enactment thrust is adjacent zero portion excavation is done the roof. I privation I would person enjoyed women who were vibrant and young and wanted enactment backmost earlier I got married. Our dynamic present causes maine a batch of turmoil and unhappiness."

12. "We some waited [until] marriage, which was precocious 20s. Absolutely zero regrets. Nine years and 2 kids later, we inactive person a steadfast enactment life. There’s besides zero baggage [or] examination from immoderate past relationships. We wouldn’t person it immoderate different way."

—u/Jimmyboo116

13. "Yeah, I bash regret it. I bash person a bully matrimony and we’re happy. But enactment successful matrimony is different, and erstwhile you person kids, it’s adjacent much different. I consciousness similar I missed retired connected that careless, fun, young sex."

14. And lastly: "We [waited]. Married 16 years currently. [We] started swinging six years agone and person loads of sex. Prior to that, not a batch of sex. Life is good."

—u/Look__a_distraction