"Conservative, But I Know I Won't Get Matches If I Say So": Women Are Sharing What They've Learned About Men Who List "Not Political" On Dating Profiles

For thing that's meant to awesome neutrality, 'not political' has started to work precise otherwise connected dating apps. In a infinitesimal erstwhile authorities feels progressively hard to disregard — from large nationalist argumentation shifts to highly disposable events playing retired successful existent clip — claiming to person nary sentiment astatine each is landing little arsenic apolitical and much arsenic a deliberate choice.

That hostility was astatine the halfway of a recent post that rapidly gained traction, wherever a pistillate voiced what galore look to beryllium thinking: What precisely are men trying to execute by listing themselves arsenic 'not political' connected dating apps?

"I garbage to judge the ones who enactment this down are really liberals successful disguise," u/tltr4560 wrote. "Maybe 1 oregon 2 of them. But the bulk of them? Hell no." Pointing to the governmental clime pursuing Jan. 20, 2025, she argued that claiming to person zero opinions connected immoderate of it is, successful her words, "horseshit." "I don't cognize wherefore they deliberation putting down 'not political' makes them look ambiguous oregon slick," she added.

The station resonated widely, drafting hundreds of responses from women who accidental the statement has go little of a descriptor and much of a reddish emblem — 1 they've learned to decode done firsthand experience. From theories astir wherefore men fell their authorities to idiosyncratic stories of being misled, their answers overgarment a representation of a dating scenery wherever governmental individuality has go intolerable to sidestep, nary substance however hard immoderate whitethorn try:

1. "'Conservative, but I cognize I won't get matches if I accidental so.'"

3. "Libertarian is simply a Republican who likes weed."

—u/mjheil

4. "Matched with a centrist once. He was an anti-vaxxer."

—u/Isibis

5. "It's unthinkable that they larn that saying they're a blimpish successful their bio volition halt them from getting matches, but someway aren't observant capable to inquire themselves wherefore being a blimpish is simply a occupation to statesman with. I person 2 hypotheses. First, they're unwilling to change, truthful they prey connected radical who don't notice. It's akin to the thought that galore scammers intentionally marque spelling mistakes — due to the fact that the radical who don't spot them, oregon don't care, are little apt to question the scam itself. In the aforesaid way, anyone who doesn't prime up connected 'not political' oregon doesn't question it is much apt to lucifer with them and beryllium easier to control. Second, they're unwilling to alteration due to the fact that they're blimpish and truthful hopeless not to fto spell of their beliefs that they'll proceed lying to everyone — including themselves — to support immoderate semblance of a mean life."

6. "Oh, they've asked themselves wherefore being blimpish is simply a problem. It's conscionable that the decision they arrived astatine is 'women are dumb.'"

—u/Kevadu

7. "Honestly, a batch of these men judge women are meant to beryllium beauteous and cute, but not to person immoderate substance. Fox News has repeatedly had that disgusting Jesse Watters accidental to his pistillate cohosts, 'Oh, conscionable archer women they're beauteous and determination on. They conscionable privation to beryllium complimented.' And past there's the full 'it's not that deep,' erstwhile actually, yes — it is that deep."

—u/ToraRyeder

8. "There was a caller r/askconservatives thread wherever they discussed precisely wherefore they bash it. A fewer large takeaways I had were: 1) It's the lone mode they tin get laid. 2) They recognize precisely what they're doing and actively survey places similar this to larn however to prevarication better. 3) They don't judge they request to alteration — they spot a beardown separation betwixt morality and politics, and deliberation that if they tin support you astir agelong enough, you'll travel astir to believing they're not atrocious people. 4) It's the woman's responsibility for 'giving it up' truthful early. Never caput the treble standard."

—u/wheres_my_toast

9. "I've besides heard that galore blimpish men don't privation to day blimpish women, due to the fact that those women privation men to beryllium the family's sole provider, allowing them to beryllium stay-at-home moms. But these men privation women who gain a decent magnitude and inactive instrumentality attraction of them, the household, and immoderate kids. It's astir apt adjacent good if the pistillate earns more, arsenic agelong arsenic cipher other knows. It's amended for a antheral similar this to prevarication astir his authorities than to extremity up with a non-working wife."

—u/Ajibooks

10. "I deliberation there's besides a 3rd option: They're attracted to liberal, progressive women for reasons they whitethorn not adjacent afloat understand, and/or they privation to 'break' a feminist to their volition arsenic an look of their masculinity. Something on the lines of what Trevor Noah is talking astir successful this quote: 'Abel wanted a accepted matrimony with a accepted wife. For a agelong time, I wondered wherefore helium ever joined a pistillate similar my ma successful the archetypal place, arsenic she was the other of that successful each way.' His parent explained that immoderate men are attracted to autarkic women the mode an exotic vertebrate collector is drawn to uncommon birds — not to fto them enactment free, but to cage them."

11. "They don't judge women tin signifier thought-out governmental opinions connected their own. They deliberation women are conscionable influenced by leftism (or, successful their words, feminism oregon 'wokeness') and spell with the flow. Once helium explains his views (it's easier erstwhile an affectional transportation has formed), she volition evidently recognize that right-wing ideology has been close each along. But not earlier she is tricked conscionable a small spot into listening to that explanation, due to the fact that it's not similar he's a atrocious feline oregon anything."

—u/tacofromthe80s

12. "It usually means they person profoundly problematic views connected a batch of things, but don't similar being called retired connected it. 'No politics' means 'no authorities that are antithetic from his.'"

—u/Impressive-Code6898

13. "I cognize radical accidental this a lot, but it was legitimately a large portion of Nazi rhetoric. In college, I work astir a Jewish theoretical physicist who was wholly devoted to science. She was consenting to thatch students actively wearing Nazi uniforms. She wanted to debar thing 'political' and absorption connected teaching physics. You cognize what happened? She had students who refused to instrumentality her people due to the fact that the specified information that she was Jewish made them accidental the people was 'too political' for them. Despite her attempts to debar politics, she was forced to fly Germany to survive. The full thought of being 'not political' is some a prevarication — fixed that authorities pervades mundane beingness — and a precise anti-democratic position. Something you mightiness announcement from aged TV shows successful the 1950s is that they insisted it was the work of each national successful a ideology to beryllium politically informed and aware."

14. "Rule of thumb: Anybody who says thing on the lines of 'don't marque [thing] political' really means 'don't marque maine face things that marque maine uncomfortable.'"

—u/Ok_Writing_7033

15. "My ex did this. What a chaotic thrust that became. Never failing to person that speech successful the archetypal period again."

—u/Aggressive-Foot4211

16. "'Not political' conscionable reads to maine arsenic 'I don't attraction astir people's rights oregon thing that doesn't straight impact me.'"

—u/Chazkuangshi

17. "Men make and execute personalities due to the fact that they privation sex."

—u/kn0tkn0wn

18. "I deliberation that determination are radical who are honestly privileged capable not to deliberation astir authorities astatine all. There are decidedly radical who usage it to disguise their horrible politics, but there's decidedly a radical of radical who conscionable don't deliberation astir it. Either way, I cognize we are not compatible."

—u/IndicationKey3778

19. "Guys similar that get annoyed by the thought of a spouse who expects them to attraction oregon deliberation critically astir their actions — and past unironically walk fractional a meal day telling a pistillate she should ticker Andor oregon The Boys (no shadiness to those shows). Just saying that this is the caller procreation of dudes with a Fight Club poster successful their dorm for each the incorrect reasons."

20. "There are inactive women successful the satellite who don't spot 'not political' arsenic immoderate benignant of antagonistic indicator. Those are the women these guys are looking to attract. In immoderate cases, they really mean it — they genuinely don't wage attraction to thing extracurricular of their regular beingness and contiguous needs. They don't cognize who their legislature representatives are, they whitethorn not cognize who the existent politician is, and though they whitethorn person a vague consciousness of who presently occupies the White House, they couldn't sanction a azygous furniture subordinate oregon argumentation position. If thing is not physically successful beforehand of them, they don't spot it. And if they person nary thought what's going connected successful federal, state, oregon section government, they truly bash deliberation that means they person nary governmental opinions."

—u/DiTrastevere

21. "They don't privation to day a blimpish woman, but they cognize that if they accidental they're conservative, astir of the women connected dating apps won't springiness them the clip of day, truthful they lie. They lie, hoping they tin instrumentality you into liking them earlier you find retired the views they hold. They lie, hoping to find a wide pistillate they tin break. If a antheral isn't openly stating his views and backing them up with enactment successful this time and age, don't discarded your clip with them."

—u/I_Have_Notes

22. "Ninety percent of them are conservatives who are cowards. The remaining 10% who enactment down mean oregon non-political are either 'libertarians' (usually meaning economically blimpish but socially progressive) oregon radical who picked that enactment due to the fact that 'liberal' oregon 'conservative' don't afloat picture their views."

—u/IdeallyIdeally

23. "The operation 'if it doesn't fool you, you weren't the target' applies to truthful galore things successful life."

—u/allthesestars

24. "I don't adjacent spot if they enactment wide oregon leftist. Men lie. And adjacent the ones who are wide oregon leftist tin inactive beryllium horrific, abusive, misogynistic pieces of garbage. I had to suss it retired of them without letting them cognize what I think, truthful they can't conscionable accidental what I privation to hear."

Have you seen "not political" connected someone's dating profile? How did you construe it — and did it clasp up successful practice? Let america cognize successful the comments below!