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Sexuality isn’t ever arsenic clear-cut arsenic we’re taught it should be. Sometimes curiosity shows up quietly, sometimes it’s sparked by popular civilization — and for me, watching Heated Rivalry sent maine down a precise circumstantial net rabbit hole.
That curiosity yet led maine to a Reddit thread asking consecutive men who’ve experimented with different guys what they thought of it — and the responses were amazingly thoughtful, honest, and each implicit the map. Some radical recovered clarity, immoderate recovered confusion, and others simply learned much astir their ain boundaries. If you’ve ever wondered what curiosity really feels similar connected the different side, these stories mightiness deed person to location than you expect.
1. “I fooled astir with a feline successful college, and honestly, we were some beauteous atrocious astatine it. Years later, I tried again. It was inactive awkward, but a small better. A fewer much years passed, I tried again, and this clip it was really fun. Eventually, I ended a semipermanent narration with my woman and explored it a spot more, and I truly enjoyed myself. Later, I dated different pistillate successful an unfastened narration and continued having the occasional guy-on-guy hookup, which was great. That narration is closed now, and portion I enjoyed those experiences, enactment with men is specified a tiny portion of my wide sexuality that I’m perfectly contented letting it go.”
2. "It didn’t truly bash overmuch for maine emotionally. I felt the carnal side, but not the arousal, and it confirmed I’m not attracted to men. I don’t regret it astatine all; it was harmless, it satisfied my curiosity, and it made maine admit adjacent much that I’m drawn to women due to the fact that they consciousness softer, gentler, and much beauteous to me. I’ve learned that an acquisition similar this tin autumn nether 'heteroflexible,' but much than anything, I’m genuinely grateful it happened due to the fact that it proved to maine that being cheery isn’t a choice: the men progressive were clearly, people funny successful the aforesaid effortless mode I americium erstwhile I’m into a woman. So to my LGBTQ+ folks, you’ll ever person an state successful maine — and I’m atrocious the satellite inactive has truthful galore loud, ignorant bigots."
3. I’m not attracted to men, but I bash person a circumstantial attraction to penises, which I cognize sounds oddly specific. I’m attracted to women, I day women, and I’d lone ever privation a romanticist narration with a woman. Still, I experimented erstwhile and realized I really enjoyed it much than I expected. So I’d astir apt picture myself arsenic heteroflexible: mostly into women, but occasionally into penises too. Who knew?”
“I’m a woman, and I emotion boobs. I’m truly into nipples, but I’m not a lesbian oregon bi.”
— catasha7
4. "Several years ago, I hooked up with a coworker, and it amazed maine however aggravated it was. More aggravated than thing I’d experienced with a woman. I liked it a lot, and it inactive crosses my caput present and then. Even so, I’m not emotionally drawn to men the mode I americium to women. Physically, though? I’d bash it again."
5. "In my aboriginal twenties, I concisely questioned my sexuality. I’d ever been attracted to women, but much than erstwhile I heard that radical who didn’t cognize maine good assumed I was gay, and it honestly got successful my head. When you perceive thing similar that enough, you commencement wondering if possibly you’re missing thing astir yourself. So astatine a party, I kissed a mates of guys, reasoning that if I had immoderate hidden attraction, it mightiness yet 'click.' It didn’t. The kisses felt benignant of mechanical. Not gross oregon upsetting, just… neutral. I don’t regret it, though, due to the fact that the acquisition really made maine consciousness much unafraid and comfy successful my sexuality."
6. “I’ve made retired with a feline before. It didn’t consciousness peculiar the mode it does erstwhile I marque retired with girls — determination were nary fireworks. I did consciousness insanely comfy with him afterward, but I didn’t consciousness immoderate attraction whatsoever.”
— Dan007a
7. “I cross-dress and I’ve ever been funny astir guys. I met up with a feline erstwhile and tried hooking up, and I didn’t hatred it... Actually, it made maine privation to research more. Later, I recovered idiosyncratic who wanted to conscionable portion I was dressed up, truthful I went. Overall it went well, but helium admitted he’d ne'er done thing similar that earlier and conscionable wanted to try. Long communicative short, I inactive haven’t had a atrocious experience, and I’m decidedly funny successful being connected the receiving end."
— k8ph85
8. "When I was a kid, my champion person and I utilized to physique forts successful the woods adjacent our homes, and due to the fact that helium was older and much assertive, I usually followed his lead. As we got older, that blurred enactment betwixt relationship and curiosity ne'er truly felt unusual to maine — it conscionable felt similar portion of increasing up without afloat knowing what it meant. By precocious school, akin experiences had happened with a fewer adjacent friends, nary of whom identified arsenic gay; we were conscionable young, confused, and hormonal. I don’t cognize however those experiences shaped anyone else’s identity, but I retrieve the aggravated nerves and butterflies that came with knowing thing concealed and intimate was astir to happen."
9. "Around Halloween successful 2008, aft years of watching cheery porn, I decided to experiment... and I truly enjoyed it. Since then, I’ve had enactment with men galore times. I inactive see myself straight, and I’m inactive attracted to women, but I bask enactment with men much than heterosexual sex."
10. "I hooked up with a feline erstwhile connected a whim, and honestly, it was much amusive than I expected — but it inactive didn't alteration however I consciousness overall."
"I sucked a feline off. I was not into it tho."
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